Showing posts with label early breastfeeding obstacles. Show all posts
Showing posts with label early breastfeeding obstacles. Show all posts

1/29/11

Early Breastfeeding Obstacles Part 5 - Fear


Fear - fear of breastfeeding in front of people, fear of not being perfect, fear of our instincts, fear of the unknown, fear of asking for help, fear of failure... the list could go on and on.

Fear will rear its ugly head at all milestones of our life. Breastfeeding is no exception. Think of other big events; say, a job interview. If you haven't been to a job interview before you may not know what to expect. You could read books, ask for advice from friends/family who have been on interviews before, ask professionals for pointers, etc. OR... you could just show up and wing it.

Sometimes the latter may work, but chances are better if you have tips, tricks, and a support network to get helpful ideas and solutions. Agree?

The more information you have going into this milestone in your life, the better your chances are of being a success. Now, that's not to say you need to somehow obtain your masters degree in breastfeeding, but going into it with some knowledge already in your head and lots of resources already built in at your fingertips for when/if something isn't working right is going to drastically increase your chances.

Breastfeeding is a natural and normal thing, but we've lost touch with our instincts of overcoming common challenges, especially since our little F friend (you know, formula) was invented. If breastfeeding isn't going well, people are very quick to offer up that F word. And it definitely has it's time and place in some situations. I am most certainly glad it is available for moms to truly need it. But more often than not it could have been avoided had mom been given XYZ advice instead.

Those first few days are so important to creating/building your supply and having baby learn how to receive the shipment. Just remember that their stomach is about the size of a marble - it does not take much to make them full. You have time to gather advice from all your resources and try lots of different solutions before your baby falls into that failure to thrive category. And chances are they won't. Rally up your troops and stay strong mama!

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1/5/11

Early Breastfeeding Obstacles Part 2 - Comfort Level

Having many guests the first few weeks of your baby's life poses another possible problem - are you comfortable with breastfeeding in front of people? Chances are if you are a first time mom the answer to this question is a resounding "NO"!


Early on I know I would try to use blankets or covers, which when you are first learning how to latch is darn near impossible. Not to mention baby gets too warm and fussy, and the whole thing just turns to frustration.


It does take some time for most women to stop seeing their boobs as something to keep
hidden (aka sexual and private.) Now being on my second child I am much more comfortable just doing what I need to do in order to get my baby to her food source and much less time worried about arranging a blanket to shield the view of whoever is in the room. Do people see my nipple, yeah... probably. But ya know what... I don't really care. If they see it, it's because they are looking too darn closely. I'm exposed for probably 5 seconds if even that, and if baby is rooting around a person should know that feeding is happening soon if they know anything about me.


Another thing to think about is getting used to acting and feeling that nursing is a completely normal and natural thing to do (because IT IS). If you don't make a big production of it, people in the same room with you might not even realize you are nursing. When your baby starts showing signs of being hungry, just simply feed him/her. No need to announce it to the room and let everyone know what you are about to do. If they realize what you are doing and they are uncomfortable, they can leave.



So in summary - Either find your kahunas and just whip 'em out, spend a lot of time in back bedrooms, or simply tell people that you need some privacy. Solicit the support of your partner to wrangle people away when baby starts to fuss. Don't deny your baby boobs just because you have company over.


Baby's needs come first over formality and politeness in my opinion!


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